Pick Up Lines

I have been many places in my brief stint here on Earth, but I must say when it comes to approaching the opposite sex, some people just don't have a clue. One place in particular I can think of that people have no clue is the club scene. Loud music, people sweating and dancing, and I almost forgot there's alcohol involved!. Even if you are under the influence, you can't just say the first thing that comes to mind because even though you think she's faded she's on her game. I've seen it happen more times than you could possible imagine. One of my favorite pick up lines is this one here, "Excuse me miss shawty...." Wait just a minute here. What happened to just "excuse me miss"? Where did "shawty"? come into play? Oh yeah, the alcohol probably kicked in at that point. Depending on your surroundings, you have probably heard some classic lines yourself. Where I live, I hear this one all the time "shawty in the (whatever she may have on at the time) come here gul" or "aye shawty with that fat ass you looking good baby girl". Every time I hear someone say those 2 lines, I fall in the floor laughing. Not on the floor, but in the floor literally. I laugh so hard that my sides cramp up. Then there are the hood niggaz as they call themselves. They have a totally different way of coming at a woman. I've seen these individuals come at a woman with a lot of sense, and as soon as she walks away or says no, she becomes a "hoe", "bitch", "buckethead hoe", or whatever comes to mind after rejection. Was all that really necessary? I mean come on now. Who in their right mind would take it that far? I guess someone who hasn't been around a better example I guess. There are too many pick up lines, but just remember to use the head on your shoulders when approaching women. All a woman wants from a man at the end of the day is to be appreciated for who she is and not what she has to offer. Be respectful and mindful of what you say to a woman because you don't want another man saying those things to your sister, mother, grandmother, or any female family member you have. As a matter of fact, think about if you had a daughter for a second, would you want someone talking to her like that? Think about it peeps...deuces!!!!

The Relationship Afterlife

Everyone in their lifetime has been through this stage at some point in their life whether it was a young age or at the present moment, but no matter what the case as I stated before everyone has been there. You've just experienced a bad break up, a broken heart, or you're running searching for the right mate. Let's pause for a moment and analyze exactly what I'm saying to you. You have been with ur mate for about 10 months, and you find out that your mate has cheated on you. Right now, you're probably feeling devastated, and you are in a state of shock. According to you, the relationship was going great and there were no apparent issues. But then, your subconscious mind starts speaking to you, and you start wondering was there something you could have done differently. All of these random thoughts starting formulating in your brain and all you can do is wonder. This is the point where you start experiencing what I like to call "the relationship afterlife". The reason I call it the "relationship afterlife" is because up until this point you were indulged by your relationship with your mate. You were dating, having sex, taking trips, meeting family, etc. Now here comes the moment of truth, and the big question hits your brain. You ask yourself this particular question here, "What am I going to do now?" For some people it's an easy road, but for others this road is tough. Forget the people who can bounce from relationship to relationship let's focus on the tough road. You have just broken up with your mate of 10 months, and you're left vulnerable to the outside world. You want to date, but you're cautious because you just got out of a really bad relationship. You put your guard up, and you don't really expose too much information because the wound is still fresh. You start partying more with your friends jumping from club to club, engaging people to fill that void, and you even create a little blackbook of new contacts to date. All while this is going on in your life, you never take the time to really and truly deal with your emotional hurt. You consume yourself with multiple tasks, exercise, movies, or whatever hobby you have just so you don't have to think about your relationship. This is why I call it the "relationship afterlife." It's a deep scar that haunts you forever until you deal with it. Some people even take it as far as having "friends with benefits", "cut buddies", or just some person u casually have sex with on a regular basis. No matter what you title this aspect of a friendship, you still haven't tackled the real issue at hand. What do you do with this huge emotional scar you have on your heart? Are you willing to let the next person you want to start dating know about this emotional scar? Do you feel they have a right to know about your past experiences? These are questions you have to tackle in order to move forward and have a successful relationship after your break up. The "relationship afterlife" is something that can consume you, and you can also get so caught up in it that you may overlook a person who was waiting to help you heal your wound. So before you get caught in the "relationship afterlife" take the time to deal with why you're hurting now so that you can focus on your next relationship and give your all. Until next time folks....peace!!!!

Never Go A Day Without Expressing True Feelings

Everyone has experienced that awkward feeling in their life where they realize they should have said something to a certain someone but never got the chance. I sit back and wonder why is it that people never express how they truly feel until it's too late. Here's a familiar scenario here: you and your boyfriend/girlfriend have got into an argument and you say everything you want to say at the top of your lungs and leave the scene mad. You leave and get in your car, and you get into a really bad accident and your life is in critical condition. At that moment, everything that was said back in the house becomes a distant memory, and the room is filled with I love yous and I can't or don't want to live without statements. Basically, it's the typical movie scene where the female/male lead is about to die and he/she is crying their eyes out screaming "NO!!!" at the top of their lungs and then the infamous fade to black scene is next. Back to the present, you can never take a day for granted because you never know what will happen in the course of a day. If you have a broken relationship with a family member, friend, or even your parents take the time to let them know how you truly feel because the next second isn't promised. Here's an excerpt from my life: I was 13 years old and my Mom was on her death bed battling breast cancer. I was at baseball practice having fun with my friends, and a few days earlier she said some things that didn't bode well with me. I let a couple of days go by, and I never said anything to her. On June 12, 2000 my mother passed away from breast cancer while I was at baseball practice gearing up for a tournament. I never got to express to her how I really and truly felt about having her in my life. I can never get that chance again because she's resting peacefully in heaven. I wish that every day I could go back and tell her how I felt so that she could hear the words part from my lips before she took her final breath. With that last story in mind, you should rectify and mend all broken relationships you have in your life because the next second of your life, or the person you have to mend the relationship with will be taken from you. I'm outta here peace!!!

A Real Man

In today's society, what is the definition of a real man? You have to ask yourself whose opinion you are basing this answer off of and if the answer is valid. I often consider what it takes to be a "real man", and I can only come up with one solid answer. A "real man" is somebody who stands up for the right things in life, portrays a positive image, and is emulated by his peers and associates. A "real man" is envied by even some of his closest associates, colleagues, and even family members. Women can identify the qualities of a "real man" quickly, and they often are attracted to men of this caliber. You're probably look at that last sentence right now and asking yourself how does this relate to me. Well I'm glad that you asked because if you're ever out in a public place and women are looking your way constantly then you have the "real man" image. There's something about the way a "real man" walks that turns a woman on, has her biting her bottom lip, or even giving that ever so slight double take glance your way. One thing I have noticed nowadays is that "real men" are far and few between. I hear dudes everywhere claiming to be real, but no actions show otherwise. You can't consider yourself a "real man" if you have 5 or 6 kids running around here, and you not taking care of any of them. You can't even consider yourself a "real man" if you don't have a stable job, car, house, apartment, or condominium. A lot of the dudes I catch claiming that they're "real" are the same ones who run around with their pants hanging to the ground, ass all out on display like a woman, and a mouth full of gold teeth. There's nothing "real" about that image simply because those are images adopted by rappers. How can you consider yourself "real" if you're imitating a fantasy world? The same ones I'm referring to right now are the ones who also run around cursing every other word like a sailor. "Fuck this and fuck that, bitch nigga, pussy nigga, fuck nigga, etc." A "real man" has a vocabulary like none other. He can turn a woman on just by mere conversation. One of the biggest misconceptions of the definition of a "real man" is that "real men" don't show their emotions. I disagree with notion because a "real man" is in tune with every fiber of his being. A "real man" will cry in front of his friends without thought, he'll call his wife/girlfriend/significant other around his boys and tell her he loves her dearly, and he'll also fight for what is right. A "real man" resembles God himself because "real men" are created by God.